Real Love Vs. The Narcissist’s Love Bombing
Every great relationship has a spark. A moment when the world grew brighter and more consequential. For too long you had a sense that you were merely wandering. Existing. Floating in space. Surrounded by people, yet unable to reach out and touch them. Until they came along: Your soulmate.
Suddenly your world became imbued with meaning. You felt infinite purpose emanating from within. Anything was possible. You were finally ready to take on the world, and you had your soulmate to join you for the ride.
Sinister Motives
We are all high during those heady first months. This is not a figure of speech. We are literally being flooded with dopamine and norepinephrine. We might as well be on drugs.
When in this state, it is nearly impossible to see the reality in front of us. Who the other person is beneath the surface, what their true intentions are, what dynamics are developing between you and them; none of it matters. And even if it did, you have no way of gauging the truth. You are high. Except rather than your hands looking weird, it is your entire life.
If in reality you have met a psychopath, then you are being groomed to give sex, money or status to them, to serve their cold-blooded agenda. You are being instrumentalised so that the psychopath can get what they desire. There is no ‘love’ on the psychopath’s side. You are being used, plain and simple.
If you have met a narcissist, then you are being lulled into their fantasy world. The narcissist seeks perfection, and they have projected that perfection onto you. The narcissist is recruiting you as a co-conspirator who will feed their grandiosity. The narcissist is on the run, not from the law, but from their internal reservoir of toxic shame. They have been looking for the Bonnie to their Clyde, and you gladly step into the role.
