A Narcissist Deserves Empathy — But Not Yours
Narcissists are becoming notorious as an evil beyond redemption, undeserving of our pity or empathy. Since dropping your boundaries with a narcissist only encourages them to weaponise your attention and energy, firm boundaries and relaxed vigilance are necessary at all times. No exceptions.
Many targets of narcissism have been seduced into the idea that if they show just enough love and empathy, the narcissist will discover the path back to their own heart. A painful lesson awaits such people.
If we were to look at possible healing modalities for narcissists, we are presented with a chicken/egg scenario. In childhood, a narcissist was not seen, valued or loved for who they were, and therefore developed a grandiose false self to survive the pain. The way toward healing is through love. Many of us know this. Yet the narcissist only avoids and abuses love.Which raises the question: If someone was not given or shown love, how can they heal without love?
The answer, as crazy as it may sound, is for the narcissist to love themselves.
